Since I posted the ‘Stasis‘ entry, I’ve been receiving an even greater number of emails than usual.
Many of these were queries as to my emotional state – and I appreciate the concern that I’ve been given. Some were a little more pointed…
Since my latest entry (Expectations…) the number of requests to meet in person and offers for play, both online distance play and in-person local-to-me play have increased dramatically.
I’m grateful for the attention, but I would like to set the record straight on a few notes.
Firstly – though my former primary partner and I ended things, I was not monogamous with her at the time of our split, and I am still not ‘single’ in the traditional sense. I’ve been free to pursue other relationships for some time, but I am actually not seeking that right now. Now is a time for reflection and taking things slowly.
I posted that I was going to, over the course of the next year, rekindle relationships that I had left to wither, that I was going to forge new ones, and that I would work to strengthen the ones that I already have. That remains a true statement, but it seems to have been interpreted by some to mean that I am immediately seeking that, and I am not.
I do not have a specific time frame for this, and I am currently working to simplify things until such a time as I feel that I am emotionally ready for more. I do not know how long that might be.
It will be some time before I am ready to take on anyone new, or even to seriously rekindle relationships that have faltered. I am always happy to hear from people from my past, or to provide guidance to people that I have not had contact with before, but I currently require a certain amount of distance for those relationships.
I have one partner with whom I am spending my time right now, and while I work on myself (which is a never-ending process,) together we are beginning the process of working on her and finding the path to what it is that she wants and how that fits in with my desires.
Working with a new submissive requires a significant amount of attention, patience, and time.
I have made the mistake in the past of engaging with other partners while attempting to mentor a new submissive, but it has not worked out as well as it should have, and this is not a mistake that I wish to repeat.
So, while I remain available for advice as always, I am not looking to take on any new trainees, long distance D/s relationships, or even to begin playing with any new partners right now.
I still firmly believe that access to more information, more styles of D/s, and more personalities is a good thing for anyone who is interested in this lifestyle, and to the degree that I have always been available to my readers for such things, I still am.
I just need some more time before I start anything new with anyone, from either my past or future, and I hope that does not offend anyone or turn anyone away from asking me for advice or an opinion.
You readers are the reason that I keep writing here, so please don’t stop the emails or comments (I do have anonymous comments disabled, so if you are afraid of outing yourself as kinky, email is still your best choice) but understand that it may be some time before I agree to more than passing emails back and forth.
I remain yours, and I remain Rant.