Lord Rant’s Limits

The text below the line comes directly from the original CEPE checklist, unadulterated except for the removal of their logo and color scheme.

I think it does an excellent job in describing what checklists like this are useful for and how they are best used, and as I did not alter the list itself in any way either (except to highlight my own answers to the questions) I thought it best to preserve this message as well.

The original checklist – unfilled – can be found at this link.

I make no claims to authorship and use this only as an illustration. I am happy to answer any questions and you can reach me at lordrant@domrant.com or you can contact the CEPE members through their site.

In some cases it isn’t exactly clear in which direction things are intended, so there will be questions – for things that do not apply to me (for instance, I have neither breasts nor a vagina) I have tried to use the strikethrough to indicate that it does not apply.

My views on some of these things are somewhat fluid as well and may change from time to time – for instance, I’m not a fan of being bound – at all – but if I somehow found myself wanting to switch for someone (also unlikely) I would submit to it more readily than all of the “1’s” might seem to indicate. And yet – despite being a Dom, I’m more of a masochist than I am a Sadist, so there are some apparent inconsistencies with the role that are perfectly consistent with Me.


BACK

Checklists are frequently difficult to complete due to the complex variety to what we enjoy.
When we try to fill them out as Tops, Bottoms, Dominants, Submissives, etcetera there is usually confusion over fetishes that aren’t physically interactive between partners or over activities that may not clear as to who is giving and who receiving. A sincere effort has been made here to reduce this kind of confusion, but bdsm checklists will never be perfect enough that you won’t probably have to go to your partner and confer about how to answer at least one item.
Take it as a blessing in disguise – a bdsm checklist is only supposed to get a conversation started. That’s what the tool is made for. Remember, it’s just a beginning to negotiation, not
an end in itself.

Done to/for Self: Read this as how you feel about being on the receiving end of the act.

(As examples, here Whipping would refer to you being whipped, while Massage would mean you’re the one on the table.)

Done to/for Others: Read this as how you feel about having someone else receive this act.

(In the examples above, you would be delivering the Whipping, or serving your partner a Massage.)

Tried: Have you tried this? Circle Yes or No for each.

Rating: How does/might this feel to you? Use the chart below as a guide, and circle two answers together if you’re “in-between.”

/ Not Applicable Actions that are physical impossibilities. Draw a slash through the box for these.
? Curious Maybe you’re never tried this, or only once, and want to experience more before deciding how much you like it.
! Essential This is something that you can’t see yourself enjoying a scene/date/relationship without.
5 Love You love doing whatever it is.
4 Like You like doing whatever it is.
3 Don’t Mind You can take this or leave it, but will probably do it for your partner.
2 Dislike You dislike this but will put up with it for your partner.
1 Hate You hate this but will put up with it for your partner.
× Soft Limit Something you cannot attempt at this time but might be possible in the future.
X Hard Limit Something you will not ever attempt.

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Anal Play

Acts in which the anus is involved.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating (General)

Acts in which one partner is beaten.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Canes

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Crops

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Floggers

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Hairbrushes

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Hard

Acts in which one partner is beaten hard.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Paddles

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Soft

Acts in which one partner is beaten softly.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Spanking

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hand.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Straps

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a strap.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating – Whips

Acts in which one partner is beaten with a whip.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating Location – Back

Beating based acts that focus on the back as a target.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating Location – Bottom

Beating based acts that focus on the bottom as a target.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Beating Location – Chest

Beating based acts that focus on the chest or breasts as a target.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating Location – Feet

Beating based acts that focus on the feet (usually the soles) as a target.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating Location – Genitals

Beating based acts that focus on the genitals as a target.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Beating Location – Legs

Beating based acts that focus on the legs as a target.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bestiality

Sex with animals.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Biting

Acts involving biting one partner with the teeth of the other.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Blindfolds

Acts in which blindfolds are placed over one partner’s eyes to remove that sense (and often heighten others).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Branding

Burning the body, often with a specific design, to leave a permanent mark or scar.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Piercing, Permanent

Putting an object through a part of the body for permanent adornment.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Piercing, Play

Exploring the concept of body piercing but in a manner that is temporary.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Saline Injection

Injecting saline in to a part of the body to temporarily engorge it.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Scarification

Deliberately causing scars, often through cutting the skin, for adornment.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Body Modification – Tattooing

Adorning the body by permanently applying ink under the skin.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage (General)

Binding or restricting some or all of the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Bondage – Breast

Binding or restricting the breasts.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Cuffs

Binding or restricting the body (usually the wrists) with [hand]cuffs.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Genital

Binding or restricting the genitals.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Heavy

Heavily binding or restricting the body, usually to the point where no, or next-to no, movement is possible.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Intricate

Intricately binding or restricting some or all of the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Light

Lightly binding or restricting the body. Usually more symbolic than actually restrictive.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Locks

Bondage that involves locks and keys.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Prolonged

Binding or restricting some or all of the body for prolonged periods of time.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Sleeves, Arm

Restricting the movement of the arms by placing them in a confining sleeve.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Sleeves, Leg

Restricting the movement of the legs by placing them in a confining sleeve.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Spreader Bars

Restricting the movement of the legs by connecting them to either end of a bar, usually forcing them open.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Stocks

Restricing movement by placing the wrists and neck (though may involve ankles) through a set of stocks.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Strait Jackets

Binding or restricting the torso and arms by placing them inside a straight jacket.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Bondage – Suspension

Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Suspension, Inverted

Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, upside-down.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage – Whole Body

Binding or restricting the whole body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Chain

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with chain.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Leather

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with leather.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Rope

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with rope.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Saran Wrap

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with saran wrap (clingfilm).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Scarves

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually silk] scarves.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Bondage Material – Tape

Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually adhesive] tape.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Breath Play

Also called Asphyxiation. Acts involving restricting or cutting off the supply of oxygen.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Catheters

Inserting a tube in to the urethra to collect urine.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothespins

Using clothespins to pinch parts of the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Chosen For

Having your clothing choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Corsets

Wearing corsets which control the shape of the waist and hips.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Clothing – Full Head Hoods

Wearing hoods that cover the entire head, leaving only small holes for vision, breathing, etc. (if even them).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Harnesses

Wearing clothing that harnesses the body without necessarily covering it.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – High Heels

Wearing high-heeled shoes.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Lingerie

Wearing women’s lingerie.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Masks

Wearing masks that cover the face.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Uniforms (General)

Wearing uniforms that have a given significance.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Uniforms, Military

Wearing military uniforms.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing – Uniforms, School

Wearing schoolgirl/schoolboy uniforms.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing Material – Leather

Clothing made out of, or involving, leather.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing Material – PVC

Clothing made out of, or involving, PVC (the shiny plasticy material).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing Material – Rubber

Clothing made out of, or involving, rubber or latex.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Clothing Material – Sheer

Clothing made out of, or involving, sheer (transparent or translucent) material.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Collars – Private

Wearing a “slave” collar in private.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Collars – Public

Wearing a “slave” collar in public.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Crawling

The act of crawling on all fours to denote submission.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Cutting

Deliberately cutting the skin.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Dilation – Anal

Deliberately stretching the anus open.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Dilation – Vaginal

Deliberately stretching the vagina open.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Discipline

Submitting to, or receiving, the [often corporal] discipline of another.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Drinking – Blood

Drinking blood.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Drinking – Semen

Drinking semen.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Drinking – Urine

Drinking urine.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Electricity

Using electricity for sensation or pain.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Enemas

Applying liquid (traditionally warm water) in to the lower intestine, via a tube. Often to induce uncontrolled, or hard to control, excretion.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Examination – Physical

Having your body physically examined and, often, appraised. Sometimes this includes medical examination roleplays though, here, that is listed as Roleplay – Medical.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Exhibitionism – Forced

Exposing your body to others, nominally against your will, at the will of another.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Exhibitionism – Voluntary

Willingly exposing your body to others.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Face Slapping

Slapping the face, usually with an open hand, to cause pain or denote position.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Fisting – Anal

Placing an entire hand (the term “fist” is often an exageration) inside the anus.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Fisting – Vaginal

Placing an entire hand (the term “fist” is often an exageration) inside the vagina.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Food – Chosen For

Having your food choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Food – From Body

Eating food from another person’s body. Either eating it directly from them or using them as a platter.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Food – From Bowl

Eating food directly from a bowl, like an animal such as a cat or dog.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Food – From Hand

Eating food directly from another person’s hand.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Gags (General)

Devices used to limit, or prevent, verbal communication.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Gags – Ball

A type of gag that uses a ball to effectively block any verbal communication.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Gags – Bit

A type of gag that uses a bar that goes across the mouth, much like a horse’s “bit”.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Gags – Ring

A type of gag that uses a ring to force the mouth open while providing access to the, now undefendable, mouth.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Gags – Tape

Using adhesive tape across the mouth to create a gag.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Given Away (General)

Being given, at a partner’s whim, to another person, usually temporarily.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Given Away – Auctions

Being given to another person as the result of a [slave] auction.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Given Away – Permanent

Being given away, at a partner’s whim, to another person, permanently.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Hand Jobs

Pleasuring someone else’s genitals with your hand.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Heterosexuality – Forced

Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, nominally against your will.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Heterosexuality – Voluntary

Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, willingly.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Homosexuality – Forced

Sexual acts with members of the same sex, nominally against your will.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Homosexuality – Voluntary

Sexual acts with members of the same sex, willingly.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Humiliation – Private

Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in a private setting.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3span>    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Humiliation – Public

Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in front of others.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Humiliation – Verbal

Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, through either the words of someone else (such as name calling) or your own words.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Including Others

Acts in which other people, from outside your immediate relationship, are included.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Kneeling

The act of kneeling to denote submission.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Leashes

Wearing a leash, attached to a collar (or other convenient point).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Lecturing

An exposition of a given subject for the purpose of instruction or reprimand.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Licking

Using your tongue on another person’s body [or, often, anything they require].

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Massage

Rubbing another person’s body for their relaxation.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Masturbation – Forced

Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, nominally against your will.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Masturbation – Voluntary

Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, willingly.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Nipple Clamps

Placing clamps on the nipples to cause pain.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Nipple Play

Acts that focus on the nipples.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Nipple Weights

Applying weights to the nipples to stretch them, generally to cause pain.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Nudity – Forced

Periods of time spent without clothing, nominally against you will.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Nudity – Voluntary

Periods of time spent without clothing.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Orgasm – On Command

Having to orgasm on the command of another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Orgasm Control

Giving control of when and how orgasms are experienced – and when they are not – to another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Orgasm Denial

Losing the right to have orgasms for an [often protracted] period of time.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Pain (General)

Acts involving physical pain.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Pain – Heavy

Acts involving a very large degree of physical pain.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Pain – Light

Acts involving some physical pain, yet without too great an intensity – being more symbolic than serious.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Phone Sex

Having sexually explicit phone conversations, usually involving performing sexual acts at the same time.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Rape – Fantasy

Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Rape – Fantasy, Gang

Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by more than one other person.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Recorded Scenes – Photographs, Private

Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Recorded Scenes – Photographs, Shared

Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Recorded Scenes – Video, Private

Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Recorded Scenes – Video, Shared

Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay (General)

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Age

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on being a different age (such as babies or naughty young girls).

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Education

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on a scholastic teacher/student setting.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Interrogation

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on interrogations where one person is the interrogator and the other the subject.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Roleplay – Kidnapping

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on one partner being kidnapped.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Medical

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles such as Doctor/Patient.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Pig

Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pig.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Pony

Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pony.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Prison

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the prison world such as Sadistic Jailer/Vulnerable Inmate

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Puppy

Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a puppy or adult dog.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Religious

Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the religious world such as confessionals or Bishop/Nun.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Roleplay – Whore

Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a male or female prostitute, selling themselves to another person for sex.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play (General)

Acts involving the senses and strong sensations.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Deprivation

Acts involving depriving the subject of their senses (often to heighten the remaining ones).

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Fire

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by fire and heat.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Hair Pulling

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hair pulled.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Sensation Play – Hot Wax

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hot candle wax dripped on to or applied to the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Ice

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using ice or other cold items on the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Needle

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using needles on the body, either scratching with them, or poking them.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Scratching

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by being scratched.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Suction

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having suction applied to the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Teasing

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by teasing the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sensation Play – Tickling

Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by tickling the body.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving (General)

Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own. For example, a maid or a sexual servant.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Art

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a (usually immobile) piece of artwork such as a statue.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Ashtray

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, using a part of your body as a receptacle for their cigarette or cigar ash.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Chauffer

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as their formal driver.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Serving – Dancer

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a dancer. For example, a belly dancer or stripper.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Following Orders

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as they give you specific formal orders to follow.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Forced

Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, nominally forced against your will.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Furniture

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as an immobile piece of furniture. For example, on all fours as a table or a footstool.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Housework

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, performing household chores.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Maid

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a maid. For example, serving tea while wearing a uniform.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Serving – Sexually

Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, in whatever sexual way pleases them.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Anal

Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your anus.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Cunnilingus

Sexually stimulating the vagina with a mouth/tongue.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Denial

Going without sex, or sexual gratification, often at another person’s command.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Fellatio

Sexually stimulating the penis with a mouth/tongue.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Group

Sexual intercourse with more than one partner.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Sex – Penetration, Double

Sexual intercourse in which two orrifices (mouth, vagina, anus) are filled.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Penetration, Triple

Sexual intercourse in which three orrifices (mouth, vagina, anus) are filled.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Rimming

Sexually stimulating the anus with a mouth/tongue.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Threesome

Sexual intercourse with two other people.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Vaginal

Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your vagina.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex – Vanilla

Traditional sexual intercourse, without involving any kinks.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Beads

Having a string of connected beads (or balls) inserted in to your anus or vagina and then pulled out.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Butt Plugs

Wearing a “plug” inserted in to your anus.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Dildos

Using and/or being penetrated with a non-vibrating artificial phallus.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Eggs

Variously known as Ben-Wa Balls, Love Eggs, etc. Two balls made to be vaginally inserted which vibrate when you move or are battery powered to vibrate.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Public (Under Clothes)

Going out in public with a sex toy (such as a butt plug) in your body, under your clothing.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Strap On

Using and/or being penetrated with an artificial phallus that fastens about a partner’s waist.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Sex Toys – Vibrators

Using and/or being penetrated with a vibrating toy, usually an artificial phallus.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Shaving – Body

Removing all traces of hair below the neck.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Shaving – Genital

Removing all traces of hair from the genitals.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Shaving – Genital, Styling

Shaving or trimming pubic hair, removing some but not all of it in a given style.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Shaving – Head

Removing all traces of hair from the head.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Showers – Brown

Defecating on another person.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Showers – Golden

Urinating on another person.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Speculums – Anal

Using a medical tool to dilate (stretch open) the entrance to the anus, providing access within.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Speculums – Vaginal

Using a medical tool to dilate (stretch open) the entrance to the vagina, providing access within.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Swapping (Partner)

Sex between two or more couples where members of each couple exchange partners and have sex with them.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Voyeurism

Watching someone, often without their knowledge, in a situation with sexual connotations.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Worship – Boot

Worshiping the boots of another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Worship – Bottom

Worshiping the bottom of another person.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Worship – Breast

Worshiping the breasts of another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
Done Rate Done Rate
Worship – Foot

Worshiping the feet of another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Worship – Genital

Worshiping the genitals of another person.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Worship – High Heel

Worshiping the high-heeled shoes of another person.

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes

No

Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Wrestling

Wrestling with another person, overpowering them or being overpowered.

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Yes
No
Essential   Curious

5    4    3    2    1

Soft Limit   Hard Limit

 

5 thoughts on “Lord Rant’s Limits”

  1. Thank you. This is very new to me. I’m not sure how to start as a new sub. I would like to email you with questions. I’m communicating with someone but it’s been frustrating because he says he doesn’t want me as a sub but he treats me as one.

  2. The cepemo link takes me to one of those “buy this domain” sites. Would you perhaps have a writable copy of that limits worklist that you would be willing to forward on to me?

    Thank you very much.

    1. That is unfortunate. I wonder what happened with their domain ownership, perhaps someone forgot to pay the bill…

      In any case, there is an archive of the original page here: http://archive.is/rHcFL

      Hopefully the original will be back soon.

      – Rant

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